Do not practice what you do not want to become | Willem Gous

Do not practice what you do not want to become

Do not practice what you do not want to become

Do not practice what you do not want to become

A very simple statement that most people fail at applying in their life, and there is a simple reason why.

Supporting something, giving it attention, priority, will make it grow. Not supporting something, not giving time and attention to it will diminish it and eventually fade out of conscious existence.

We all have things we do not want to become yet we struggle what seems to be a lifetime to avoid them and still fail. The issue is that you give more attention to what you DO NOT to be than you do at what WANT to be.

A prime example was when I started my public speaking career. I would focus on not saying “uhm”, “not fidgeting” and the list goes on. What did I do during the talk? I said uhm many times and I fidgeted like a toddler in a dentist waiting room.

With age I learnt that I should rather focus on the speaker I want to be and then things turned around. I want eye contact, I want to connect, I want rapport and I want to change people’s lives with my message. Paying attention to these things resulted in the things I did not want to be, fade into nothingness.

Thus, do not practice what you do not want to become. Practice, exclusively, what you DO want to become.